First off, I was having trouble naming this post because it was either that or “Stop assuming everyone is passive-aggressive.” I chose the “White Knight” because passive-aggressiveness isn’t always the issue of what I’m trying to talk about here. Either way, I’m just bad at titles.

Everyone is passive-aggressive to an extent. There are also different types of passive-aggressive behavior. Some are more severe than others that it gets especially annoying and unhealthy. And others rarely if not never have to act that way when they don’t get it their way or they don’t agree with something. I’m the latter. I think clear communication is awesome and important. If something is bothering me, I have no qualms expressing that in a calm manner and finding a solution for it. I don’t hold grudges either.

Lately, I’ve had at least two people treat me as if I was trying to hint something and they tried to cater to that. I find it very annoying because I’m not that kind of person. I don’t hint things to get what I want. I don’t make subtle grunts or “hmphs” to suggest that I’m not happy with something. I actually express it very, very CLEARLY if that were the case. Like, when I’m just taking a single deep breath or clearing my throat, certain people react to it quickly and ask me “What’s wrong?” because they assumed it was their queue to be concerned.

Uh… nothing, I just wanted to get more oxygen! 

Sometimes in the mornings, I get allergies and just after one sniff, without any hesitation, someone would ask “Omg, are you alright?” assuming I was crying.

Yep, it’s just the usual morning snot. K thanks.

While it is nice to know that someone cares about you. I think the mind-boggling part here is if you hear someone sniffling, what are the chances of them actually crying in front of you VS. someone having allergies? Why assume crying over the usual allergies, when you’ve never cried in front of them before but they’ve heard your sneezing every now and then?

When someone says they’ll get me lunch and I keep insisting that I don’t want lunch from them, they surprise me with lunch regardless because they think I secretly really wanted one and I’m just trying to be polite by saying “no.”

No. I legitimately did not want this food you bought. I was really looking forward to going to a Vietnamese sandwich shop on my own, but instead you got me a burger and it’s hella greasy. If I wanted you to buy food for me, I would’ve say yes. Like, duh.

It’s stuff like that that I’ve been dealing with and it irks me. I feel like these type of people do it because they are somewhat the same way so they assume that is how everyone else regularly communicates, or they are constantly around other people who tend to “hint” for things so they are simply use to that kind of behavior.

Ultimately, it is nobody’s job to try to read other people’s hints. And if someone expects you to try to figure out their mood, don’t. It is not your damn problem.

I’ve been sort of active here for the past few days and it has been a nice change of pacing. I can’t promise that I’ll be back writing up a storm again soon but I can tell you that I only post depending on my mood and my mood lately has been “let’s go on this blog that I rarely touch these days and talk some shit that no one will ever read.”

In about 1-2 weeks, I will be starting on my new cosplay project for BlizzCon. When I focus on a project, I focus on it 100%. No video games. No Netflix. No social life. No blogging. So perhaps, I guess this is my way of attempting to give attention to my blog as much as I can before I completely dive into my other hobby for three whole months (yes, this is how long it’ll take for me to make my BlizzCon costume. This is serious business.).

If you really want to keep in touch with me and/or follow my “life”, check me out on Twitter and Instagram. I’ll probably never close this website but I will have my extended breaks, whether it’s a year or ten years. Sometimes, I’ll come back with full force, sometimes I go “meh” and just half-ass it for a few days and then don’t come back until another six months.

In the meantime, I just wanted to let everyone know that I miss the hell out of blogging and my blogging friends. <3

I’ve been working for a business that sells cosplay wigs online for the past two years. I started working at the very bottom of the chain and quickly moved my way up. I’m happy with where I’m at and it’s not just because I work in a hobby-related field that happens to be my hobby, but it’s a lot more than that. There a lot of teens and young adults out there who believe working for a cosplay retail business is meant for them simply because they are cosplayers themselves.

If you find happiness or satisfaction in helping other fellow cosplayers, then that’s a actually good sign of knowing you’d most likely be suitable for the job. If you’re able to sacrifice attending a convention that you’ve always went to your whole life to work as a vendor instead, then this job’s probably fine for you. However, after traveling to many different conventions and meeting new people who have expressed interest in applying for a job here, I’ve noticed there are a few of the same misconceptions and preconceived notions about working for a cosplay wig/retail business. I’m here to debunk those beliefs.

1. You get to wear and try on wigs all day.

Wearing a wig that you bought is allowed but it’s not recommended if you don’t want to sweat profusely in it, since working in a warehouse involves a lot of physical work. Trying on wigs is the one thing that happens the LEAST often when you work for a wig company or business. The person who gets to try on the wigs the most would probably be the model that we hire for a photoshoot. The next person would be the employee who is in charge of test-fitting sample wigs. This person is usually the manager or someone who has worked for the business long enough to be experienced in wigs.

2. You get to travel to many different conventions as a vendor and not have to do physical work. 

While the “traveling” part may be accurate, the thing that most people don’t even consider is they would be the ones setting up and breaking down themselves (when the convention has completely ended and vendors start putting away inventory and booth displays for good). In addition to transporting and lifting heavy boxes that could weigh up to 70 lbs (wigs can be reeeeally heavy stuffed in a box). A lot of the times, they are doing this alone and they are traveling alone. It’s typically a high-stressed environment because things can go easily wrong when you work at a convention especially when it’s non-local, but the overall experience can be rewarding at the same time.

3. It’s a lot of fun.

I’m pretty sure this could be applied to almost any position but you shouldn’t be applying for a job just because you think it’s going to be “fun” otherwise you’ll be very disappointed. Yes, my job can be “fun” at times but that’s not the primary objective when you’re getting paid to get stuff done. It’s not necessarily fun just because the business you’re working for is related to your hobby. For instance, the business operation of an online cosplay wig store can just be the same as an online office supply store. We’re practically doing the same tasks such as counting inventory, printing orders, packing orders, answering customer support, lifting heavy boxes, etc.; the only difference is the product we’re selling.

It’s ok to be enthusiastic about the possibility of working for a business that you’re interested in. It’s ok to be passionate about your hobby to a point where you want to work in a field that relates to what you do for fun. But it’s always important to have realistic expectations at the same time!