I just had an AIM conversation with an old friend (let’s just call him Tony) and it went something like this:
Tiff: How are you and your girlfriend?
Tony: We’re not together anymore. We’re on a break.
Tiff: Oh sorry to hear that.
Tony: Naw it’s cool. I love her a lot.
Tiff: …then why are you guys on a break?
Tony: Because she said that she wants to be completely focused on school.
Sorry “Tony”, but like I said before in our conversation, I think the whole “going on a break” thing is complete bullshit. I don’t think the idea itself is bullshit, the explanation behind it, however, IS.
Tony’s girlfriend doesn’t want to be in a relationship at the moment because she wants to concentrate on her schoolwork. I mean, what the hell is this crap? Is she seriously THAT dumb that she can’t handle a boyfriend and school at the same time, yet she has room for “girl’s night out” every weekend?
It just goes to show you how most people have this screwed up concept of how a relationship is suppose to work. I was listening to the radio a couple of months ago and one of the callers asked for advice about his fiancé. He loves painting, but his fiancé would never let him, because she’s constantly complaining how she feels neglected by him whenever he works on his art stuff. I mean, shit, let the guy fucking paint. Arts and crafts usually does take a long time to finish.
Having a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t you mean you have to spend quality time with them every single day. It doesn’t mean you have to call them 24/7. It doesn’t mean that you have to be the annoying boyfriend who checks up on his girl every time she’s not within screaming distances, right?
If this is how a relationship should be, then I certainly don’t want to be in one.
I don’t understand “breaks” either. My friend went through a similar situation, however the reason for the break was different to your friend’s. For my friend, his girlfriend said she loved him but then when she was around him she wasn’t happy, however she kept stressing that she loved him and tugged him a long for another few weeks while going out with other guys and so forth. Now they’ve broken up, but it was a really shitty time for him. It’s so hard to see someone “love” someone so much while the other person is so stupid and selfish.
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Some girls (and guys too) are just clingy, annoying and thinks there’s only one side of the relationship (her side). I hate dumb clingy bitches!!
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Relationships in your 20s are never serious, nobody knows who they are or what they want. Wisdom comes with age, so anybody “in love” at a young age is a fool. It’s very simple. People just make it complicated. Just have fun y’all! That’s what this time is for! Don’t get too involved, Don’t get too hurt.
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relationships can get so tricky… i agree that is not a valid reason to go on break :/ i am quite clingy… but i think both parties should know their limits, and that’s what makes it work or become disastrous haha.
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I dont agree with the first comment. I’m in my early 20s and I am completely serious with my relationship, to the point that we’ve gone as far as planning a future (complete with kids and pets) together. I guess it helps that my boyfie is in his 30s
I hate Siamese-twins couples but I can’t really judge because if that’s what works for them, then that works for them.
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