When I find something bad or annoying about one of my friends that could possibly be detrimental to our friendship, I have no problem bringing the subject up to them just so we can resolve the issue. However, there is one particular “friend” who I can’t stand and I don’t have the balls to bring it up only because the “issue” that I have with her isn’t that bad or serious, but at the same time, I can’t stand it, I’ve been purposely screening her calls and ignoring her messages, and as cruel as this may sound, I don’t have a problem if we lose contact with each other entirely.
The main problem I have with her is that she hogs every friggin conversation and she never shuts up to let you talk. Every conversation I’ve had with that motormouth has only been one-way communication: One person speaks and no feedback is allowed. She definitely possesses some good traits, like, she can be fun and entertaining because of her feisty personality and she’s an incredibly intelligent person, but her own mouth outweighs the goods by a whopping landslide, it’s unfortunate.
Don’t get me wrong, in certain situations, it is okay to just listen and simply allow the other person to spill their beans to you, but it absolutely cannot be that way all the time. In a normal discussion, it is common sense to talk and pause every minute or so to let the other person talk and/ give their feedback and vice-versa, but she, on the other hand, doesn’t understand that!
It is so bad that if I want to say something, I always have to interrupt her.
It is so bad that when I interrupt her, she interrupts me right away.
It is so bad that I’m blogging about this.
So here’s how our conversation would look (er…or “sound”?) like in a nutshell:
Motormouth: Timmy and I are dating now. He’s so sweet! One time, I got this text message from him and it said, “I wurv you a lot and I miss your feets”. And I’m like, “That is so cute. I’m going to save this text…forever.”
Me: Aw-
Mouth: I miss him so much. Man, I can’t wait to see him tomorrow. Oh yeah, and then school’s pretty stressful-
Me: Mm hm
Mouth: I have to study for two tests. I’m working on one project and writing a five-page essay about sea sponges-
Me: Hey sea sponges are-
Mouth: it’s pretty aggravating because sponges aren’t that fun to write about. I mean what do they do? Nothing really. I rather write about killer whales and dolphins-
Me: Mm hm
Mouth: They mobile and stuff, as oppose to sponges. Sponges…I wash my dishes with them-
Me: You know-
Mouth: Dude, there’s this cool show I went to the other day-
HOLD UP. NO HOLD UP. JUST HOLD UP MIGHTY MORPHIN POWER MOUTH. I DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR THIS.
Yeah, I’m not really sure how to bring this up to her. I don’t like the idea of ignoring her phone calls, but I feel it’s the most “reasonable” thing to do, since it’s not that big of an issue.
We’re going to bump into each other at one point or another, and when that time comes, she’s probably going to ask for an explanation due my um…absense haha.
Any advices?