After receiving enlightenment on the Ladder Theory, I use to think that men and women couldn’t truly be friends unless they were somewhat attracted to each other. Actually, I still believe it’s true, with very few exceptions, but most of my friends and family members I had talked to disagreed on the subject. Most of them said I shouldn’t be so anal and that I shouldn’t assume every guy is out to get one thing. So, I decided to play by their rules when a guy had approached me last week (not really, but I did try).
I was at school, sitting on the benches while trying to call the theater arts teacher until someone tapped on my shoulder from behind and asked if he could interview me for a class project. I answered, “Sure, why not?” He then sits across from me and asks me some intrusive questions related to dating, and sure enough, each of my answers turned into a discussion.
During my “interview” I learned a few things about my interviewer. He’s like a chick, and he even admits it. He likes romantic movies. He read “The Notebook” once and cried at the end. Chick, much? I think so.
At the very end of our conversation, he jumps up and says, “Man, you’re like a dude!”
“That’s it? That’s your conclusion? That’s great…”
“Well don’t take it as an insult, I’m the chick, remember?” He looks at his cellphone then puts it back in his pocket, “Well hey, I better get going, but I really enjoyed talking to you, and thank you.”
“Yeah no problem.” I shake his hands. “Nice meeting you.”
“Actually, mind if I get your number?”
“For reference? Sure!” We both laugh. He hands me his blackberry and after punching in my number I gave it back to him.
“Just promise me you won’t have a crush on me.”
“What?”
“I have a girlfriend,” A smile crossed his lips.
“Then why are you asking for my number?!”
“Because you seem really cool, and I’d love to get to know you more as friends.”
“Ok, I don’t mind being friends, but here’s the deal, delete my number now or tell your girlfriend that you asked for my number.”
“Yeah, ok,” he nodded, “I’m really open with her.”
The following day, he called my number. Feeling rather uncomfortable about the situation, I screened it, and then text him, “Can’t talk at the moment, what did you want?”
He replies, “Just wanted to say hi 
”
Phone number deleted.
Sorry, but is this still me being paranoid and all-up-in-the-ass or does that really sound shady? ‘Cause I’ll be damned if my boyfriend did that. Maybe guys and girls can probably be just friends, but really, I think it can be easily misinterpreted as something more depending on the situation.
I ended up meeting another guy prior to that, who also wasn’t single. We had gotten along as friends that we ended up talking on the phone. I knew he only saw me as a friend, and only as a friend, because flirtation was never really implicated on both ends. The only problem now is…well…I’m the one who’s starting to develop a little crush.
Maybe the real question to this blog isn’t “Can guys and girls really be friends?” rather it should be “Can Tiff really be friends with guys?” :-/
